There are times in a lot of relationships when we wish we could swap places with our partner, feel what they feel and vice versa.

One of the most critically acclaimed songs ever made is about this exact subject, but it does not take a deal with God to swap roles in sex, but instead a commitment to each other, and sometimes a little help from an adult shop.

People in relationships tend to settle into established roles, and this can be true regardless of the type of relationship, which is often why one person tends to take the lead, one person ends up on top and the other underneath.

This is most commonly the case in heteronormative relationships where stereotypically the man commonly initiates sex but can happen in LGBTQ relationships as well.

Whilst this can help make sure everyone’s comfortable, it can also make you feel stuck in a rut and perhaps unhappy if the role you end up inadvertently being shuffled into is not one you are happy to play.

This can easily be solved by swapping the roles, and exactly how to do this depends on the relationship you have with your partner. In some couples, it can just be a matter of one person being on top or giving when they usually would do the opposite, and with others, it can be a greater change.

Role reversal play is a broad dynamic that can go from switching positions to acts such as pegging, where a woman uses a strap-on dildo to have anal sex with her male partner as well as dressing up in lingerie to fit the reversed gender roles.

As with any sexual play, knowing what you are each comfortable with is essential to making sure that when you explore new sides of yourself that it is exhilarating and incredibly satisfying rather than uncomfortable.

It is also fine to be nervous; it is always scary to open up a side of yourself you did not even know was there or had not shown to your partner. If anything, that vulnerability will bring you closer together